Signs Of An Unhealthy Relationship.

While most people in relationships still find their partners attractive, they are not in a healthy relationship. These rose-tainted glasses have led to many people staying in the unhealthy relationship. Here are signs of the unhealthy relationship that you might be in, which you should come out of and find the loving and healthy relationship that you deserve.

The control with kindness is a good place to start, and this is the subtler sign that you are in an unhealthy relationship. Partners that root out your weaknesses and use them to control, you are as bad as the ones that use fear and violence. Whether or not they are the source of your happiness, the best partners will make sure that you are better and happy. When your partners claim that you are making a big deal over small matters, claim that you are exaggerating things and also too sensitive then you are looking at emotional blame. They deflect whenever you want to talk about any problem and are never emphatic about your emotions.

The other red flag that you should watch out for is when they are clingy and therefore need coddling, because this is actually not loved but more of a mean to manipulate you. They will, for instance, make you feel guilty about spending time with other people which in turn makes you too isolated and depend on their company.

There are also the ones that have the unspoken standards. If your partner is trying to change you by trying to convince you that they know what is best, what you want and need then you should consider that an unhealthy relationship. Past relationships are more often than not telling you something about them like their inability to having a healthy relationship for instance. A partner should be supporting the goals that you have and building you up, and if they, therefore, degrade them then this is a bad sign.

If your partners have a short fuse, then this is a sign that you are in an unhealthy relationship. While the small fights and arguments may seem petty now, they can damage or strain relations and you should be able to talk and solve them as adults. You should know when someone just needs you rather than love you, to avoid the emotional manipulations. Balance of power and trust are two main pillars of a healthy relationship. If your relationship has one or more of these signs, it means that you are not in the right relationship and if this cannot be changed then you should look for better.

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